Have you ever heard the philosophical/Analytical/Cocktail party question: What would you do if you could not fail?
It’s a real humdinger in conversation because it’s a way of getting to know people for fun but also, asking what they would really like to do – so you’re best off answering that you love your life. Unless – you trust the people you are speaking with not to take it too seriously – or tag you for it later.
The better question is: What would you do with your life if you knew you would fail? I mean what risks would you take if you realized or knew in advance that the things you picked out would not work. Would you have taken more risks, tried more things, skipped more risks? Failure is inevitable so it’s best to take all the chances you can when you have the opportunity.
Also, and this is key, I recently met someone who said he was totally happy with his life and wouldn’t change a thing – or have done anything differently – then I found out he was lying about his entire identity. Clearly, that guy was not really happy with his life. So you can’t always trust anyone who says they would never have done anything different looking back on their life. Whether they are at peace with their life is another question.
Deborah Kay Corey is a member of Ladies America. She works in marketing and communications in the Washington, DC area. Her blog website is www.deborahcorey.com and has received up to 376,000 hits in a month. You can contact her with questions at firstname.lastname@example.org